Yes, you read it correctly.
Please don’t let your children dream success, name, fame, followers, money, luxury, or anything that gives them instant gratification. Dreams that foster ego give them a false identity, short term fame, and acquired credit does more damage than good to their personality.
Each child is born with lots of imagination and creativity; don’t tame their childhood.
“The greatest legacy one can pass on to one’s children, and grandchildren is not money or other material things accumulated in one’s life, but rather a legacy of character and faith.”Think about it.
Name and fame
The short term fame that children are aiming these days is not just dangerous but extremely hampering their growth too.
Youtube subscribers, Instagram followers, pinned at Pinterest, are just a few examples of a false ego boost. They feel the burnout very soon.
Each parent wants to see their child succeed, and if he/she brings them fame, then it boosts the parent’s ego as well, isn’t it? ‘
Recognition at school, medals dangling, certificates in hand, scholars badge on the blazer, wow! It looks amazing. There is no argument that the child has worked hard for all the accolades, but I am very sorry to counter-argue this statement.
Ask yourself. After so much of recognition, are you or your child prepared to face any failures?
Do they hang out with friends regularly?
Do they go out and sweat and play?
Do they have bruised knees to understand how it feels?
Are you raising them as dainty girls and rough boys only?
Aren’t you silently happy about the fame they bring to you?
If more answers are yes, then your child is in serious trouble.
Life is not flowery as you’ve made for them.
Young children are writing books /novels and sitting in closed rooms, in front of their tabs and typing for hours and days while they should be getting burned in the sun and playing outside.
Young girls are posting videos with suggestive poses while they should be exhibiting innocence.
Boys are learning abusive languages from online games.
And there are any more examples.
Who is at fault?
Our children are not at fault.
We parents make a mistake here. Our children are watching us every moment. If they see power, money, luxury with no discomfort, they’ll start aiming for such life because they are far from reality.
How to enable them to make wiser decisions?
Let them fight their own battle. Please enable them to earn respect and followers from their sincere effort. Make them participate in an online essay or story writing competitions and win accolades, rather than you helping in vanity pub.
Push them to chase the finish line in sweat and dirt. Let them fall, roll in the mud, and come back home with soiled clothes than perfectly clean uniforms.
What’s a good dream?
Children should be encouraged to dream of happiness, love, and empathy.
Make then chase butterflies, run in the wild, take those untrodden trails, play in the sun, lets their knees get bruised, let them sweat, play with strays, laugh loud, be as free a bird in the sky.
Make them share their knowledge, allow them to volunteer, and let them gain recognition by their humility. Involve them in gardening. Let them see the beauty of a growing plant from a seed. Read autobiographies. Watch cartoons and roll on the floor laughing with them.
Go out, go out, I beg of you.
And taste the beauty of the wild.
Behold the miracle of the earth
With all the wonder of a child.
~ UnknownRun and chase in the wild
Children will see what we show them. Our dreams considerably influence them.
We have to show them magic and then believe in theirs.
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